{"id":241,"date":"2013-06-17T14:40:47","date_gmt":"2013-06-17T14:40:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/client78.ldrgifts.com\/?p=241"},"modified":"2021-02-27T22:55:57","modified_gmt":"2021-02-27T11:55:57","slug":"family-meetings-in-intensive-care-or-the-elephant-in-the-room","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intensivecareathome.com\/family-meetings-in-intensive-care-or-the-elephant-in-the-room\/","title":{"rendered":"Family meetings in Intensive Care or the elephant in the room"},"content":{"rendered":"<!--powerpress_player--><div class=\"powerpress_player\" id=\"powerpress_player_2355\"><!--[if lt IE 9]><script>document.createElement('audio');<\/script><![endif]-->\n<audio class=\"wp-audio-shortcode\" id=\"audio-241-1\" preload=\"none\" style=\"width: 100%;\" controls=\"controls\"><source type=\"audio\/mpeg\" src=\"http:\/\/intensivecarehotline.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/12\/Elephant-in-the-room.mp3?_=1\" \/><a href=\"http:\/\/intensivecarehotline.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/12\/Elephant-in-the-room.mp3\">http:\/\/intensivecarehotline.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/12\/Elephant-in-the-room.mp3<\/a><\/audio><\/div><p class=\"powerpress_links powerpress_links_mp3\" style=\"margin-bottom: 1px !important;\">Podcast: <a href=\"http:\/\/intensivecarehotline.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/12\/Elephant-in-the-room.mp3\" class=\"powerpress_link_pinw\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Play in new window\" onclick=\"return powerpress_pinw('https:\/\/intensivecareathome.com\/?powerpress_pinw=241-podcast');\" rel=\"nofollow\">Play in new window<\/a> | <a href=\"http:\/\/intensivecarehotline.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/12\/Elephant-in-the-room.mp3\" class=\"powerpress_link_d\" title=\"Download\" rel=\"nofollow\" download=\"Elephant-in-the-room.mp3\">Download<\/a><\/p><p>Elephant in the room <strong>MP3<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Family Meetings in Intensive Care or the Elephant in the Room\" width=\"500\" height=\"375\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/uDHvPu3oIMc?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>This blog post was first published on our sister site at <a href=\"http:\/\/intensivecarehotline.com\/blog\/\">http:\/\/intensivecarehotline.com<\/a>\u00a0a blog designed to instantly improve the lives of Families who have a critically ill loved one in Intensive Care.<\/p>\n<p>Have you ever wondered what is really happening in Family meetings in Intensive Care? Have you ever wondered what the elephant in the room is during those meetings?<br \/>\nAs a starting point, Family meetings in Intensive Care normally only take place if the situation of your critically ill loved one is dire and serious. That could mean that your critically ill loved one is so sick that the odds are against his or her favour. It could also mean that your critically ill loved one is about to die. That\u2019s at least what you and your family get told and that\u2019s how the Intensive Care might frame the situation. How do you react? How do you know it\u2019s true? What do you do in order to validate what you have just been told? Can you validate the information you are given at all, if you have no or only a basic understanding of Intensive Care and medicine?<br \/>\nLet\u2019s take the emotion out of the situation for a moment. The emotions that Families are usually feeling when their loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care is fear, frustration, overwhelm and the feeling of vulnerability. What I also often see is that Family\u2019s are more often than not paralysed with fear. And it\u2019s extremely difficult to eliminate these emotions.<br \/>\nSo, you are going into a Family meeting and you are feeling all these overwhelming emotions and that\u2019s certainly not a good starting point to go into any meeting. And then there\u2019s the perceived power dynamics. On the one hand is the Intensive Care team, doctors and nurses with lots of perceived power and then there\u2019s you and your family with little or no perceived power.<br \/>\nHow does the Intensive Care team positions your critically ill loved ones situation? How are you and your Family positioned? Are you positioned at all? Are you close to a nervous breakdown, so that positioning is the last thing on your mind?<br \/>\nTo come to the point, depending on what is happening in the Intensive Care Unit such as the number of beds available in the Intensive Care Unit or the number of Patients awaiting admission into the ICU, the positioning of the Intensive Care team not only varies from person to person, it also varies depending on what\u2019s happening behind the scenes. The position of the Intensive Care team might also vary, depending on the ICU consultant\u2019s\/physician\u2019s outlook on things, whether they are an optimist or a pessimist. Some Consultants\/Physicians might have a more positive outlook on things than others and therefore they may be more optimistic for your critically ill loved ones future or at least they are more willing to listen to your concerns and questions and show real empathy.<br \/>\nThe bottom line is that you should always listen very carefully what is being said and also what is not said. It is also crucial in your situation that you are having an opinion and a position, irrespective of what the Intensive Care team is telling you. Just because you are not an Intensive Care insider, doesn\u2019t mean you shouldn\u2019t have an opinion on your critically ill loved one\u2019s situation. I see so many families not having an opinion, because they are paralysed and overwhelmed by the whole situation that they often don\u2019t have a say or a choice of what\u2019s happening to their critically ill loved one. Have a say, get involved and ask as many questions as possible. That\u2019s not only your right, it\u2019s your duty!<br \/>\nAre you lacking impact and influence while your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care? For crucial tailor made information sign up for our FREE \u201cINSTANT IMPACT\u201d report and learn behind the scenes secrets of what\u2019s really happening in Intensive Care and how it impacts on your critically ill loved one\u2019s care!<br \/>\nThank you and see you next week in another update.<\/p>\n<p>Sincerely, your Friend<br \/>\nPatrik Hutzel<\/p>\n<form class=\"af-form-wrapper\" style=\"margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: none; outline: 0px; font-size: 12px; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: #ffffff; float: none; color: #23262a; position: static; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 18px;\" action=\"http:\/\/www.aweber.com\/scripts\/addlead.pl\" method=\"post\">\n<div class=\"af-form\" id=\"af-form-1868500422\" style=\"margin: auto; padding: 0px; border: 1px solid #cfcfcf; outline: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: #f0f0f0; width: 304px; overflow: hidden;\"><\/div>\n<\/form>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>: Play in new window | DownloadElephant in the room MP3 This blog post was first published on our sister<a class=\"read-more\" href=\"\">Continue Reading <i class=\"fa fa-angle-double-right\" aria-hidden=\"true\"><\/i><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[2],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v22.4 - 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